I froze for a while, not sure how to handle that news. I told my best friend the news over dinner and then waited for her reaction. Then I let him know we had to cut off communication, and I was praying for his marriage to be reconciled. I prayed for conviction to hit this man’s heart for seeking someone besides his wife. I’ve never heard from or seen him again, but I write this today, hoping my prayers availed much and this man and his wife are serving the Lord together. “Is this a normal thing—to date when you’re separated? He received the news well, but I have to wonder if he walked away shaking his head at the last part of our conversation.During the 2 year relationship he says very sweet words, that we will be together one day, wants to spend time and get to know each other, he loves me, looking forward to me being his wife, more sure every day that we are going to be a couple, says I am perfect for him. We were talking on the phone for the first 3 months and then he never bothered to call anymore. Then after a few messages he just ghosts on me, says nothing.When I asked him the reason, he said there was not an opportune time. All during the relationship he would regularly disappear for 2-3 days at a time, come back and not say what he had been doing. During that time I was playing detective, he was sending me love images that two hearts are meant to be together, I love you more each day, stuff like that. Can he truly love me but just be doing all that for fun, since we don’t have sex due to the distance? During the time we did spend together, I felt a spiritual connection, like I knew him from somewhere before. I have not made any more contact and do not plan to. Done with Divorced Guy Dear Done with Divorced Guy First I’m going to agree with your assessment of this situation. I’m sure that hurts, but there’s no surprise – you were already on to his games.
Each relationship is unique; there’s no magical equation that will tell us if any relationship will or won’t work, but we can be smart, ask the right questions, use a little common sense and not ignore the signs along the way. There are plenty of people out there who 10 years ago would have said, “There’s no way I’m dating someone who isn’t divorced yet.” Now they may find themselves reconsidering.
Whenever we choose to date someone, we’re taking a risk—will it or won’t it work out is a question we always ponder.
In that way, dating a partner who isn’t divorced yet is no different than dating someone who has always been single.
My husband and I are getting divorced, but it’s complicated because of custody of the children and financial issues like dividing up our property and child support, etc.
We’re getting through that alright, that’s not my problem.