On her screen, images of men appeared and then disappeared to the left and right, depending on the direction in which she wiped.
I felt a deep sense a rejection -- not personally, but on behalf of everyone at the bar.
They had reached Curious to find out if anyone else had hit a wall in their online search for love, I polled a selection of singles who were actively dating and learned that all of them had deleted their dating apps recently, and most commonly, have deleted and reactivated their apps over and over again.
The reason for deleting their dating apps all seemed to boil down to either time consuming, frustrating, or boring. I’ve downloaded and deleted that app maybe six times in the last 12 months.
I was talking to a group of my girlfriends the other day and the topic of dating came up. No, neither had entered into a relationship and was now deleting their apps because their exclusive relationship required it, but rather, they were deleting their apps because they were talking to too many men, going on too many uneventful first dates, sending out too many messages only to receive radio silence, and getting too many “Sups” from uninspired suitors.
These women were deleting their dating apps because they were tired.
So try to talk about things that will help you in these ways. Ask questions that get her to tell you stories - like "what is your fondest birthday celebration memory?
But the fear that online dating is changing us, collectively, that it's creating unhealthy habits and preferences that aren't in our best interests, is being driven more by paranoia than it is by actual facts.
"There are a lot of theories out there about how online dating is bad for us," Michael Rosenfeld, a sociologist at Stanford who has been conducting a long-running study of online dating, told me the other day.
I think after a while the disappointment gets exhausting — whether it be from a bunch of dates with no real connection or guys not messaging back or what.
Online dating is also just time-consuming.” – Kate, mid-twenties*.