So obviously, living with full-fledged anxiety makes an already stressful, scary situation even worse.
Enter: dates — a socially anxious person's actual worst nightmare.
(like you are on the regular), but you're also risking making a fool of yourself in front of someone you want to like you.
In honor of National Mental Health Awareness Month, Elite Daily spoke to a few mental health experts to really break down how to go on a date if you have social anxiety.
Below are some methods for meeting people if you live with social anxiety.
Enter the dating scene by letting family and friends know that you are looking.
You often hear people joke about having anxiety in stressful situations, and you may even hear people who've actually been diagnosed with anxiety joking about it as well to deflect the stress with humor.
But what a majority of people may not realize is, a person actually living with social anxiety may experience irrational fear, self-consciousness and embarrassment in everyday social situations.
It may take longer to open up and share, which can affect one’s ability to form close relationships.
It has been some decades now since I have been on the dating scene but I do remember how anxious I would become.
I think so much of the anxiety can be due to the fact that there are so many choices and ambiguities with regard to dating.
Crying and hyperventilating on a park bench for no reason apparent to anyone but you realllllly gets those dicks up!
One minute, you're having a great date at a free outdoor concert, and the next minute, your heart is pounding and you feel like you are trapped in a Ziploc bag. "Playing it cool" is straight-up not in your repertoire. There's gotta be a country where "sitting at a bar staring into space and inevitably sweat-staining the pits of your expensive Madewell top while your brain moves 100 miles an hour" is considered playing it cool. Anyone familiar with benzos (that's an #INSIDER'S term for anxiety-alleviating tranquilizers) knows that they don't mix well with alcohol. Worst case scenario, you black out and wake up at the Formica table at an Arbys in another state. And you're so worried about whether they'll like you that you barely pay any attention to whether you like them. Every time a guy doesn't text you back in the early stages of dating you assume the worst and immediately go into crisis mode.