You don’t need to change, you need to learn to test the men based on who you are.
Some women will never date again because they fear they can’t spot the dangerous, destructive, or abusive guys.
Now that the confines that the outer shell placed on me have been removed I refuse to ever hide behind a disguise ever again . I am going out into the world with a whole new set of rules . Recovery from an emotional breakdown has made me want to be a better person, it has encouraged me to learn and to work on myself .
It has taught me to look within myself and think about my emotions and it has also given me the incentive to overcome my past .
It’s only natural that you would hesitate to trust people or allow them to get close to you for fear of another loss.
Why would you want to open your heart again and risk being hurt?
Once I learned my own value, I realized that not everyone deserves my trust. And to learn how to fill that void of vulnerability. Only once I built my self-esteem would I attract a man who would treat me as worthy. I want to share this as I know there are many others for whom this might help. And I am certain we are going to grow old together. How did I not go head first into the next abusive relationship? To understand why not all my emotional needs were met as a child. Here’s another one: watch not what they say, but what they do. You show someone you love them by treating them as loveable. And another mantra: if it sounds to good to be true, it usually is. Once we’re drawn in deep enough, another side appears. Denying those that were screaming at me that this relationship was no good for me. (I’ve created a whole new category for them on here).